Nkosi's Haven dry food drive - project me day 698

The little boy with the big legacy - Nkosi Johnson

There is an assumption that Nkosi's Haven is a very well supported NGO and we have slowly come to realise that this amazing boy's dream is in need of support.

The haven have now turned to social media to create awareness and generate funding, but in the meantime, some amazing #FollowSA peeps have offered to assist with a dry food drive in preparation for the festive season.

Indulgence Coffee Cafe is renowned for their amazing food, hospitality and gorgeous settings, and have opened the restaurant to us on Saturday morning as the drop off point for the food drive.

Join us for a freshly baked large muffin and cappa/tea at R25 when you drop off your donation of dry goods (tins, rice, pasta, mealie meal, beans ... )

Thank you to so many amazing Twits who encourage #FollowSA to make this drive happen.

If you cannot make the drive and wish to donate dry goods the please email me DM @jodenecoza and we will make a meeting point!

Where: Indulgence Coffee Cafe
225 Beyers Naude Drive, Northcliff

When: Saturday 3 December 2011
9:30 am to 11am

Please RSVP here

Hug yourself - project me day 697

That's all I've wanted to do all day!

It's a whirlwind of a day and this is still yesterday's blog. Later today I'm going to share the experience of the amazing #followsa #downdown2011 event, but right now I'm catching my breath ?... okay, that'a a lie! I'm catching up on Tweets, phone calls of thanks and requests for more #followsa events and ... and ... and

For the first time in ages, there hasn't been that sinking feeling that happens after the build up to a event. That's because nothing seems final or done and I feel as though my path is slowly being paved for me just by being in the moment of all that #FollowSA means to me and everyone else around me.

I have come to realise that my priority is to get the 'what is #FollowSA?' document out there at that recording every moment from this second on is vital for the history of this booming hashtag nad concept ... yet right now ... all I want to do is hug myself.

I want to stop in the moment and not revel in the excitement of the flowing Twitter timeline. I don't want to even daydream about the events that are going to be logged into a public Google map from this moment on ... I just want to stop!

In the midst of it all, I want to spend a moment with me and acknowledge that I set out to do something and I'm doing it. That I said to myself I would live my project me for the world to see and I'm doing that. That I knew there would be obstacle to overcome and I'm overcoming them.

I just want to take a moment to be proud of me and give back to me what I give to so many people when I am proud of them ... a hug!

Little sis's Fairlady bride wish - project me day 696

I'm Libra! I know love stories when I see them! I've been a sucker for them my whole life!

From day one I saw love written all over the fairy tale that would end in marriage and the promise of happily every after. It was a joy to spend some time living with my little sis and her loving husband and it paved the way to my knowing that I was surrounded by genuine love when I met Pat.

That's why nothing would make me happier than to see my little sis win the Fairlady bride award. That's where you come in. I would love you to take a moment to ready Geordie and Matthew's love story, then all you have to do is 'Like' the page for Facebook and if you are feeling super generous, a comment would be awesome.

Because dreams do come true ...

Valuable lesson, tough teacher - project me day 695

Don't justify!
Don't defend yourself!
Don't let anyone make you doubt yourself!
Don't retaliate!
Don't give them the?satisfactions!
Don't forget just how hard you have worked to earn your place in the world ... or in the social media sphere!

Wow, that a tough and emotional weekend.
On the real and energy worth investing side of life, Greggie's dad is very ill and I'm so proud of my friend for being so strong and telling himself such harsh truths about his dad's illness and time. It's always hanging over my heart and I can feel a little weariness as it brings back so many memories of the passing days I spent watching my dad slowly prepare to leave this life. Illness truly is one hell of a teacher and it's tougher when it gets to the point that doctors say enough is enough.
I remember that day. I remember the realisation that all I could do was lie next to my dad and wait. It taught me about life and death all at the same time and although I tell Greggie that these moments will be life changing and the he is learning so many amazing lessons about himself and his ability to love and to lose, the reality still remains, that the teacher ... death ... isn't one we truly want to meet.

And then in the far corner, tampering with my emotions, stirring up self doubt and taking me out of integrity, is a teacher that I am only beginning to meet. The teacher who comes in the form of individuals who choose the Twitter Timeline and my hard work to attempt to discredit. I've experienced the odd cynical Tweet, but nothing like this. Nothing like the teacher who unexpectedly states that I am neither a social influencer or a social media strategist. The person who?publicly?announced that he is amused that I am self proclaimed. Another Tweeter, who seemed to like the banter and has less than 100 followers decided to congratulate this individual and state that I am a fraud.

Devastated! That is how I describe my moments as I tried to defend myself online.

And then another valuable teacher stepped in. She calls herself ego.

After this person Tweeted that people shouldn't be proud of themselves when they have bought their followers, I felt my ego step in and protect the person she loves the most ... me!

I watched myself make silly choices. Contact people to support me ... foolishly. Respond when I should have been silent and defend myself when I have no need to at all.

I felt the backlash when friends let me down, nastiness splattered all over my Timeline and accusations about me flared. Ego had no other way to teach my the lessons I have so?invaluably?learned in less than 24 hours. She had to show me what happens when I get shaken by other's accusations or stories. She had to show me what comes along with success and recognition and she had to teach me the wrong and right way of handling it, because it is the first of many ... I suspect.

The friends who launched in to support me where amazing. The Tweets, even though I provoked my friends to do it, spoke of love and respect for me. Greggie was supporting me from a distance and Pat was right by my side reminding me of who I am and how far I have come ...

But then another teacher stepped in. 'The toughest teacher or all ... acceptance. I felt her comfort the ego and step into the limelight as she reminded me that I have no control of what other people think, say or feel about me. I do, however, have to accept that there are many people in this world and each one with think, say and feel something different.

"Accept each person's opinion," she said "but value only your own!"
A valuable lesson, not a pleasant experience at all, but one that has changed my way forward as embrace my journey.

I would like to thank each person who has invited me into their space and called me 'social influencer'. I am honoured by every meeting, strategy session, workshop and client who has called upon me as a 'social media strategist'. I am blessed by every follower who has chosen me to be in their Timeline. For without you all, yesterday would have ended with a very different story.

I live for little moments like that - project me day 694

I'm sure we all relate songs to our happy, sad, crazy, broken heart, mended heart and moments of love and this is one I have wanted to share with you for a good few months now.
Before I met Pat I had to do a lot of work on figuring out that there would be someone out there who would love me for who I am. That might seem easy but I'm not actually a walk in the park. Most of it is because I'm a total oddball ... ask around, it's true.

Believe it or not, that was my worst quality about myself and it took ages to give myself permission to enjoy the quirkiness of my nature and ... well ... pretty much everything this perfect song depicts about me.

Whenever I hear it I think of Pat's love for me and the times he's had to direct me because I'm lost, jump in to save the food, wipe away a tear and the countless other reasons why he loves me and made me realise there's nothing to change and everything to embrace.

Well I'll never forget the first time that I heard
That pretty mouth say that dirty word
And I can't even remember now what she backed my truck into

But she covered her mouth and her face got red
And she just looked so darn cute
That I couldn't even act like I was mad
Yeah I live for little moments like that

Well that's just like last year on my birthday
She lost all track of time and burnt the cake
And every smoke detector in the house was goin' off
And she was just about to cry until I took her in my arms
And I tried not to let her see me laugh
Yeah I live for little moments like that

I know she's not perfect but she tries so hard for me
And I thank god that she isn't 'cause how boring would that be
It's the little imperfections it's the sudden change in plans
When she misreads the directions and we're lost but holdin' hands
Yeah I live for little moments like that

When she's layin' on my shoulder on the sofa in the dark
And about the time she falls asleep so does my right arm
And I want so bad to move it 'cause it's tinglin' and it's numb
But she looks so much like and angel that I don't wanna wake her up
Yeah I live for little moments
When she steals my heart again and doesn't even know it
Yeah I live for little moments like that

Another year and a day - project me day 693

Last night I was exhausted and the VERY rare occasion, in almost two years, I have gone to sleep without blogging and committed to two blogs the following day.

That commitment stands and later today I am going to be sharing a country song that always reminds me of how much Pat loves me when I have one of my girlie, insecure wobbles (yes I have those!).

While I lay in bed and waited for Pat to finish working, (because we are still sharing a computer and that sponsorship is still up for the taking) I reflected on the emotionally challenging but very necessary day Greggie and I had together.

Year two of the blog is coming to and end, but so has year two of our incredible business, Lifeology.As much as I have pushed and tried, the blog has generated sponsorship but no paid advertising and the business isn't making what we need it to. That's to survive and not to buy the car on the vision board or take the trip to Venice with the man I love.

Tomorrow's 'project body' blog will be about my relationship with money, but today is about the decision to carry on with what I have committed to.

In our own worlds both Greggie and I have loving people who have questioned our partnership and suggested that we might not be making the money we need because the combination isn't right.
Can you say anything and everything to your partner?
Do you both know that you have no secrets?
Have you told each other what you see about them when they forget who they are or how much they can achieve?

Well that's what we have. We get pissed off with each other and fight it out. I moan to my mom and before the day is through I have confronted Greggie ... and the bottom line is that both of us know we could do it on our own, but we don't want to.

By the time I got to bed we had decided that another year and a day is what we have committed to and then something else started to churn in my head. Is my blog taking away precious time from the business hours or my time with Pat. If there is a time to decide, then it's on the same day that I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that I wanted to continue with my business partnership.

This Friday will be day 700 and in month's time it will be two years. Two years of blogging that has taken me on a journey that nothing in life could have offered my in near comparison. I also saw that so much of the business opportunities are born from the days and days of blogging. I smiled at the reflection of my days and how much I have grown and changed since I realised the power of living my 'project me'.

Just like I had the realisation with my best friend and business partner, I had the same realisation with my massive, bold and powerful blog.

So this year will end with lessons learned and the pride that last year I turned to my friends and readers to ask if I should carry on blogging, and this year I turned inward and committed to another magical year of telling the story of what it is like to every day absolutely goalless, totally purposeful.

Are you going to survive Mercury Retrograde with me? - project me day 692

Google really can be a toss up between my best friend and my worst enemy. Either way, we spend a good amount of time together each day. I check my spelling, my facts and my doubts and a day never passes without Google and I hooking up. I have come a long way from heavily relying on the information that Google sends my way, except for spelling, that I always trust of my own guesswork.

However, today was one of those deep needed, I'm going to totally lean on Google, I must find the answers, days!


Because today Mercury goes retrograde and I'm determined not to have the same reaction or do the same things when our dear friend comes along.
For those of you who don't know what Mercury Retrograde is ... and you should if you've been following 'project me', because of my need to try to make friends with it each time it comes around ... here's how it goes.

This occurs 3 times a year, on average. This year it has 4 cycles just for extra measure.
So retrograde happens when it appears to be moving backwards through the solar system. It's like travelling on the road watching another car beside you: when the other car slows down, or you speed up, it looks as though the other car is moving backwards. Planets are never?actually?retrograde or stationary, they just seem that way due to this cosmic shadow-play.

Either way, it messages with all the Mercury deals with ... technology, communication and transport. I'm sure if you ask people who are aware of it, they all have a horror story about a delayed flight, a crashed computer or a lost document.
Life is a mixture or scary and exciting all at the same time and I can feel the need to slow down and focus on me for a while. It's one of the toughest things in the world for me ... to focus on me. And so I decided to Google the upside of Mercury Retrograde.

What's 'project me' without looking for the positive and living with the consciousness and so I've decided to not be afraid of the usual stories of retrograde and I'm going to make my own ... ones of?positiveness, introspection and happy plans.

To do this Google took me to an interesting article that highlighted the upside of Mercury Retrograde and from the responses of just one Tweet, I think a whole lot of us need to embrace this time and turn it into positive potential before the year draws to a close and a new, fresh and limitless year begins ...

"Here are nine ways to make Mercury Retrograde work for you. Note that many suggestions begin with the letters?re.?Think?re?for retrograde.

1. Re-connect.
This is the time to look up old friends and family. You've been meaning to call Aunt Martha, or get together with your old high school buddy. Do it! Now is the time to pick up the telephone. Chances are they will be receptive and you'll be glad you did.

And you, yourself, may hear from long lost pals now.

2. Re-search.
While it is not the time to go forward with grand plans, this is a superb time to research facts and ideas you can use later.

3. Re-view.
Take that application or take your business plan and give it a second look. Chances are you will see things in a different light. And that can give you ideas to strengthen it. And that second look will ensure you have covered the bases.

4. Re-do.
If you were too hasty the first time, or you chose not to follow my advice, you may find yourself having to redo that report. But each time you redo, you refine.

5. Re-fresh.
Your brain and your body were not designed to function 24/7. Taking a little time to kick back and relax refreshes you and ultimately makes you far more productive than trying to plow straight through.

6. Re-solve.
Go back and clean up old relationships that ended badly. You can resolve many issues now - even bury the hatchet.

7. Back Burner items.
Now is the time to get to projects that have been pushed into the background.

8. Re-organize.
Mercury Retrograde is an excellent time to clean out old closets, old files, old agendas, throw out what is no longer useful to make room for the new.

9. Re-contact.
Are you in sales? Then, this is the perfect time to re-contact old leads.

If you must take on a new job or a new project during this time, know that it will change. A lot. So stay loose and flexible. Because your perspective will change also.

But if you had previously began a project, applied for that position, contacted that key lead, Mercury Retrograde will not affect you.

Use the Mercury retrograde time in a positive way, and you'll be refreshed and renewed and ready to move forward when Mercury changes course."

An extract from Ellen Zucker's Ezinearticle on Mercury retrograde.

The anticipation of a summer holiday adventure - project me day 691

It's official. We are going to Pat's home town for a week's holiday. It's even more official that I'm going to be meeting Pat's 2 kids.

I feel like saying 'The End' and being done with the post but that would be a bit of a 'project me' cop-out.

So I'm nervous, of course! I'm trying to figure out whether two teenagers is better than 2 little kids, but I don't think trying to compare makes any difference. The fact is that I'm totally in love with their dad and all I want them to do is like me and know that I'm going to be around for a very long time.

Pat has a crazy sense of humour and an interesting way of dealing with this very unexpected love that we have found, so most of the time he makes out like I'm a witch and that, and I quote: 'Marriage is the first step to divorce!'

The joy of 'project me' is that I've learned to speak my truth before someone reads it in my blog, especially Pat. So he knows that all I want is for him to not make 100 stupid jokes that leaves people guessing as to whether I actually make him happy or not.

But then I had an amazing skype chat with my dear friend, Pixelslave, who has moved back to her home town and to the love of her life. Without even realising it, she calmed my nerves and settled my heart. Pixelslave has been around since as long as I've been with Pat and she's watched our relationship grow, just as I have watched hers. She has her?insecurities?and have mine, but then that's what friendships are for ... to get the other person to calm the hell down.

She reminded me that you can't miss how happy Pat and I are and that she also gave me the gift or remembering that I'm a generally likable person. If the kids see how happy their dad is, I'm sure they couldn't ask for anything more.

It didn't take away from the anticipation of a holiday that's taking place in about 3 weeks time. But I've made friends with them of Facebook and keeps saying 'hi' whenever their dad is chatting to them on the phone.

So I'm kicking into faith about a lot of things: that I will get on well with 2 teenage kids who will hopefully love me one day and accept me as their dad's very loving and committed person.

Can you see I'm dancing around the marriage thing?
It's something he's done and something I never wanted to do. I would be telling the biggest 'project me' lie if I didn't say I want to spend the rest of my life with him and he know it. It might not end up being the conventional way, but I'm having faith in that too ... that promise of tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow.

So for the moment I'm going to end my long and sometimes very scary year with the adventure of a lifetime. I'm going to the see with people that I have chosen to call family ... and I'm doing it my way, the only way I know how ... with an abundance of love!

Gis?le Wertheim Aym?s tells her project me story in support of The Girl Effect

Gis?le?s media career spans a broad range of experience, from editorial, marketing, publishing, finance and advertising sales to media innovation and strategy. Her career highlights include, recognition as the leading Media Personality of the Year in 1992, winner of the International Press Distribution Awards for best International magazine launch for ELLE as well as over 30 local awards for magazine publishing excellence.

She was elected Chairperson of the Magazine Publisher?s Association of South Africa between 2003-2005 and over the years has served as a Chief Judge for the PICA Awards for Magazine Excellence.

During her media career she has launched and re-launched more than ten magazine titles and was responsible for several new newspaper projects, as GM Advertising Strategy and Sales and then GM Innovation at Avusa, including being a member of the strategic planning team for The Times, Sunday Times first Daily Digital Interactive newspaper. In 2008 she joined First National Bank as Media Director and led a team in FNB embracing focusing on social media and digital projects, for which she received CEO recognition at the 2009 FNB Innovators Awards. Gis?le left FNB to participate in the family?s business interests and is currently a non-executive director of OmniMed (Pty) Ltd.

She recently purchased Longevity magazine and website www.longevitymag.co.za and is living her passion!

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Gis?le tells her project me story:

What is your definition of happiness?
Walking on a long, preferably deserted beach, with the waves tickling my toes, the sun warming my back, the wind in my hair and nature all around me.

If you could have everyone say one thing to themselves every day, what would it be?
?No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. ? Eleanor Roosevelt

We all need someone to believe in us. Who is that person for you and why?
I?ve had a few mentors in business, family and my partner who have supported me over the years at different occasions in my life, for which I am grateful. However, I firmly believe that if you don?t believe in yourself, then it won?t matter who believes in you, you won?t get there?

What quality do you believe we can never be taught because it is our birth right?
Abundance is the birthright of everyone. However, very few realize it because the term ?abundance? is thought of only in relation to money. However, we are born with abundance, no matter who we are or where we are, whether it is in our health, our ?looks, our disposition, our intelligence, our environment, our religion, our family, to name a few. We all have abundance in one form or another and we just have to see it, believe in it and use it to our advantage!

Describe the moment when you realised that you could achieve anything?
When I launched a school newspaper with a friend. It was a first in the history of the school, we were in our early teens and I believed we would conquer the world

What have you always dreamed of being or doing and have you reached that dream?
No not yet, but I will get get there. I would really like to make a difference to people?s quality of life, not just my own!

When life gets in the way, what do you always remind yourself of?
t?s always darkest before dawn and you?ll always come out with more wisdom, no matter how bad it is

We all have something unique to offer the world, what is yours?
I have more guts than sense

How do you deal with the fears that could potentially hold you back?
I meditate on them, debate them with myself (and others) even get angry and depressed by them, but I work at processing them so that I can move forward and not fear them any longer

What do you believe we have lost sight of in the world as a whole????????????????
The world we live in has become far too motivated by greed. The gap between rich and poor in many countries is simply too great. So many seem to believe enough is not enough. But how much is enough??? We all have to be productive and our societies and economies must move forward, innovate, develop and create.? The very?imbalances?we see are often result of this advancement. However, at what cost?

In ancient greek mythology Erysichthon was a Thessalian king who chopped down the sacred grove of the goddess Demeter in order to build himself a feast-hall. As punishment for the crime the goddess inflicted him with insatiable hunger, driving him to exhaust his riches and finally, in poverty, devour his own flesh. Sound familiar considering our current global financial crisis, growing death rates of lifestyle related diseases and of course more and more natural disasters?

We are living in a world of contradictions. Science and medical advancement is ensuring those with access to education and money live longer. ?People in developed countries are eating more badly than ever before and there are rising levels of obesity in these countries resulting in lifestyle related diseases which need to be treated at great cost. On the other hand there are millions of people in developing countries dying of starvation. ?There are more obese people in the world (some 1,5 billion) than there are starving people (around a billion)? according to the International Red Cross.

And while this all goes on our environment is taking a beating as we continue to abuse the earth?s resources.

Humanity is its very own ticking time bomb and in a way I am glad I won?t be around when it explodes (and maybe this is just what humanity needs to bring some sense to it). However while I am here I would like to be able to say I tried to do something to make a difference even in the smallest way, if not for now, but for future generations.

Gis?le's supports The Girl Effect: http://girleffect.org

The Girl Effect is a movement driven by girl champions around the globe.?The Nike Foundation?created the Girl Effect with critical financial and intellectual contributions by the?NoVo Foundation?and Nike Inc. and in collaboration with key partners such as the?United Nations Foundation?and the?Coalition for Adolescent Girls.

It is devoted to the idea that the empowerment of girls is the key to significant social and economic change in developing countries. When a girl has the right tools in place, a chance to use her voice and systems set up to work for her, she will transform the lives of everyone around her. Studies show that when you improve a girl?s life, you improve the lives of her brothers, sisters, parents, and beyond.

The Girl Effect is about encouraging people around the world to use their voices, talents, and communities to help girls help themselves?and, as a result, everybody else. It?s about providing the tools and the network needed to spread the word about what girls can do.

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Never stop believing in each other - project me day 689

Tonight I had the most beautiful compliment. Someone said they knew our love story. She said so many people do and that she can feel we are both so deserving of each other's love. It seems his blog post touched so many people and word about town is that we are so magically suited. Every word of it is true, but it's a love that took time and truly started as a stone that needed to tumble and weather so much before it began to show any glimmer of sparkle or majesty.

This blog isn't about anyone but me, but something happens when two lives start to merge and we can almost feel each other's pain and share each other's heartache. That's the theme of our weekend together.

Have I ever told you that Pat has two teenage kids? They live by the coast and he hasn't seem them in a while. The saving has started and of course I'm dealing with my own anticipation of meeting these two almost adults, who I intend to share many years with. I'm still learning my way around money and the ins and outs of manifesting. The thing I love most about Vanessa A'wakan, who is guiding me through my journey with self and money, is that she doesn't claim to be a guru either. It's refreshing to feel that the space of a student is okay, even when you are still trying to be the teacher.

So money has me baffled and I'm still working on forming a calm, fun and abundant relationship with it and so is Pat. And in the moments of perfect love, along comes money chaos. Every penny he has been saving to get to his children now has to go to more car chaos that any two people can deal with.

My brakes are going. His something or another, that is going to cost thousand, was covered up by the people who sold him the car. Then, to top it all off, someone in our pretty new complex must have hit his windscreen with a cricket ball or rock ... but it's smashed in the corner.

To say the least, it's been rough but then I remember that at the end of every day I get to sit down and find that one moment that was more alive and real than any other, and sometimes that comes in the most frustrating, darkest times when you realise that you can get through anything when you have each other.

I contemplated this post for a while, knowing that so many of my readers and friends are single. Not wanting to rub salt in the wound because I know times are tough for so many out there and loneliness doesn't help. But then I remembered that I was one of those single people. The one who didn't want to hear the happy stories, at times. The one who didn't think he would ever come along or that it would be far too late. But I hung on and I never stopped believing in each other!

Never stop believing ...