A toast to the good, the bad and the undecided - project me post 1024

Today I got one of the most special compliments.
Today I dealt with one of the most frustrating situations.
Today I had incredibly positive meeting.
Today I had to call my business partner before I went insane.

No day goes according to plan. I'm hoping that's not just in my world and that everyone feels a little picked on by the universe. Some days are more frustrating than others, but somewhere along the line I allowed myself to take the time to watch my responses to a bad or trying day and slowly make better choices on how to handle them.

Today my sister didn't have a great day either. Actually, hers was crap! Mine was nothing in comparison!

After sitting in a restaurant, working all day, because the electricity was off and knowing I was heading home to dozens of emails, because the internet connections was pathetic, I strolled past a bottle store.

project me bubbles and strawberries

project me bubbles and strawberries

People often comment that I have such a fabulous life. They see me out and about a lot and most of my pics have happiness and bubbles in them. That's not because I'm always having special moment or celebrating something, but rather because I have created something to celebrate.

When I posted this picture, someone commented that they hadn't been invited to the celebrations. My response is ... there's no special occasion. Well, there is actually ... my sister made it through a crappy day!

I love that I'm slightly off the wall and I am most grateful that the world around me has embraced that. I believe ice cream solves all the world's problems. I call on dragons and fairies to help take away my scary tummy butterflies and my nephews are convinced that Tinkebell is my favourite actress. I keep an emergency bottle of bubbles (now we are talking the blowing kind) for when the stress really hits the fan!

It's saved me, truly it has!
I think that if I hadn't lived with my sister for a while and she hadn't seen how bubbles of every kind keeps me sane and reminds me that everything will be okay, she would have tossed me and my sparkling out.

So my message to you ... drink bubbles for no reason at all. No, on the worst of days, when you really feel like there is nothing to celebrate ... toast! Toast to making it through, surviving it, hell even toast to hating it. Show the universe that you're celebrating the good and the bad; and when you are undecided ... toast anyway!

PS ... If you drink daily, or the thought of drinking the entire bottle all on your own is very tempting, then you need a substitute for the bubbles!!! Try real bubbles ... or chatting to someone, because problems are real!

 

 

 

 

A solstice, a wedding and a fortune cookie - Project Me post 1023

Every solstice I reflect on where I am and where I know I want to be. Winter solstice is about celebrating slowly coming out of the dark (usually not the most blossoming time of life both emotionally and spiritually) and starting to move into the sunshine of our lives. Of course the cycle is ever changing, with the seasons and we continue to move into the space of light and shadow ... because this is how we grow, just like flowers.

I'm so used to quietly making my way through a solstice. Sometime it's filled with focus and ritual and other times it's an excuse to be quiet and reflect. This time, it was as a single woman on a very special friend's wedding day. The gift of being asked to a wedding so intimate completely overshadowed my single at 40 stigma ... for a while. I did have pangs of oh woe is me for a few days before, but felt the comfort of knowing that other single humans do exist and they would also be there ... single and human.

Sitting under the crisp winter sky, with the mixture of belief systems, from Pagan to Jewish to Christian, I consciously and purposefully thanked the Universe for the perfect time and place for me to bid farewell to my winter self and start heading into the lighter side of life.

project me solstice wedding

Oh look ... love!!
Oh look ... happiness!!
Oh look ... crazy love
Oh look ... simple happiness
Oh look ... perfect happiness and love in crazy people

I couldn't have asked for a more perfect ritual. I couldn't have asked for more special & happy friends to be my meditation and reminder that love is ... actually all around!

I've really felt like a spinster over the last few months. I have done that cold hearted thing and blamed nearly every aspect of my self for not being able to attract love. I've done the not pretty enough, not thin enough, not attractive enough, not smart enough, now witty enough, not ...

But then the wedding was filled with other singles. Pretty, perfectly figured, very attractive, super smart, oh so funny ... yet single! I'm sure I'm not the only one who find comfort in times like these. It may be the lowest form of a self esteem booster, but it worked non the less.
The combination of being revitalised from watching such happiness and love as my friends married and tipping the scale to a handful of singles all going through our own stuff ... but all wanting just a sample of that love to take home and create dream from, was the best way to see a solstice through.

Sunday rolled over and it was a rushed combination of breakfast with the bride and groom (because single girls don't drive home alone after weddings AKA any excuse to stay in a hotel for a night), scones with new friends from the Twitterverse and then a social media publicity stint and the Joburg Theatre. All I wanted to do was climb into bed and absorb some of the realisations I had over the past hours ... but first, Chinese.

I chilled a little with the food and enjoyed the treats of wedding cake and scones so I decided that noodles were the prefect end to the weekend. Any excuse for a fortune cookie, with the slight hope that there's a profound, life changing message, like "your single days are soon over" or more specifically, "Mr Right will be waiting for you on Thursday at this unexpected meeting spot, to meet unexpectedly ... be there!!" ... if only I believed in such clear fortune telling.

Anyway, a fortune cookie, with a simple message ...

project me fortune cookie

 

Yet a very special message. I'm slowly starting to develop Project Me into a proper working process, with workshops and app and ebooks and anything else anyone can suggest and I can manifest. The winter of Project Me is also coming to an end and it is very much time for it to blossom in the sunshine of time. One of the big parts of Project Me and The Foundation of our Lifeology teachings is the simple question, "Are you having fun?"

I can honestly answer yes ... 97,3% of the time ...

 

 

Well hello old friend - project me post 1022

One day you wake up and it all feels a little better.

One day you wake up and you're happier.

One day you wake up and things have fallen into place.

It may feel like that, but actually, there's always a slow progression. A little bit of positivity here, a touch over vulnerability there. Some surrender along the way and a pinch of acceptance when we really let ourselves be conscious of the space we are in. All these little moments, even if they may feel like nothing, culminate in a day where you wake up and it all feels like it's okay ... better than okay!

That's the story of my day!!

I feel like I did before I called off my engagement. Actually I feel like I did before I got into that space. Before I was bogged down with too much work (self inflicted) or didn't have time for yoga or gym (self inflicted).
Well, there's a little explaining to do. We never actually feel the same as we did in the past, because we evolve. It may be similar, it may be familiar, but energetically it's just not the same. So although I feel a whole lot closer to me, I'm certainly not the girl I was a few months or years ago.

Oh, the familiar feeling of feeling like I have time and I have patience with myself. The feeling of a healthier body and mind and an effortless attitude towards my journey. I'm in that. I haven't been in that for so long and it's amazing to be back.

So, all I wanted to do was go to yoga today. Every muscle in my body aches and I've had pins and needles in my shoulder for over a month. I've slowly started to do little things to get back to me, but today I was craving my yoga. Every Wednesday night my phone beeps to remind me, but I'm too busy ... so it's my first time this year! Eeeeek!!

While lying in a stretch position and feeling a new breath move through my joints, I started to reflect on what's been different over the past while, that I woke up today and felt back to me.

Breathe ... I started to take my 3 big breaths in the morning again. I have been waking up with a head full of stuff for so long, that I reminded myself of quieting the mind and not starting the day in a fluster.

Flow ... this I got from my Fairy Godmother and all I have been doing, after my breaths, is thinking "flow". "Flow into your day, Jodene ... just flow"

Quite morning moments ... I used to wake up and switch on my computer, checking emails before I was even conscious. Now I get up, get dressed and get ready for my day before I launch myself into the noise of day. This one, I got from the 4 hour work week.

Find tools ... We don't have all the answers, so I have been reading articles (more than books) from Flipboard and Zite, to grab little ideas from other people. I have specific pages I follow on Facebook, with some reminders about life and living. The mankind project, The Flow Experiment & Paulo Coelho are my favourites.

Make a health decision ... I've had so much advice & made so many crazy choices about food, diet and health that I confused myself into a frenzy of eating. It's been getting me down so much and all of a sudden I just made one clear decision. I have to choose just one thing to do differently. Nothing extreme ... just one healthy decision. So I decided to not eat anything that wasn't as natural as possible. That cuts out bread & cakes & sweets. A baked potato, sweet grapes, delicious home made muesli and maple syrup. That's all fine. No extreme ... just one thing. It's been nearly a month and I feel so happy and healthy.

Ask for help ... We all have different degrees of things that we hate doing and here's my big one. It took ages for me (nearly crumble into pieces) and tell my incredible business partner that I wasn't coping with the work load. One amazing assistant later and it still wasn't enough. Second time around, there were no tears or hysteria. There was a plan and I now have an amazing team to work with.

Have a vision ... Not a daydream or a wish. Not something stuck on a vision board, but a real solid vision. It usually hides under all the stuff you have been so busy doing. That one thing that you never get to, that might be your vision. Well, that's what I discovered. Beyond all the busi-ness, lies a very clear vision. A Project Me vision. A vision of turning this into something interactive, global and powerful for others. I've always known that, but it got clouded by the other stuff that I'm good at and passionate about. So I've shifted my focus to remember where I've always wanted to head.

Have a Cam ... Webcam will do, but I have a real Cam. A special human on the other side of the world who I have a connection with and who pushes me to follow my vision. We all need a person who sees us better than we see ourselves. Someone who is not that best friend and knows us inside out, but someone who gets to see us for the first time. For a single girl, I'm so lucky to have found this incredible new friend, with fresh eyes on me. Find one ...
PS, we really do web-cam 🙂

End the day with a quiet mind ... This is another tactic taken from the 4 hour work week. Before I end my day I make sure that I have gone through all my emails (even if I don't answer them) and I have a list of what I have to do in the day. I don't have a million things rattling around in my head when I climb into bed now. If it does get noisy, I know I have a plan. It's been amazing and my days really have settled into less of a frenzy!

Clap excited hands ... yep, for real!! I used to do this and then it just slipped away with the mayhem of the day, but I have started to get excited about little things again. A client compliment, every cent that ends up in the business bank account, swiping my card when I buy something, reaching any kind of milestone. I really do clap my hands in excitement and sometime I even give myself a big squeeze. I thanks ME and I thank the Universe!!! I totally shift my energy into a good space ... and it feels amazing!!!

Yikes ... thousands of words, but so worth it.

So the big news is that I've decided to create a Project Me app!! A real working process for living your Project Me journey, so I would love to know what you think of some of the things I've changed, because this really is ... #ProjectMe!!!

 

Dare to share the content of your handbag? - Project Me post 1021

I confess, I'm doing this because I'm a little shocked at what has crept it's way into my handbag over just a few weeks. Now that I have a fancy bag that didn't cost me a few Rands, I take lots of pride in sorting it out.

Of late, life's been a little crazy and I think it's human nature to slip back into neglect very quickly.

There is something I do pride myself in and that's seeing the funny side of life. Yep, I'm the girl who usually laughs inappropriately. Trust me, I've learned to bite my lip to avoid giggles, a lot.

So here's the funny ... The content of my handbag!

handbag project me

Oh, where to begin!

With the first thing I pull out, of course ...

One loose R10 note ... yes, I have a purse that it belongs in.
Anti-bacterial wipes ... I'm not that OCD at all, so they are nearly dried out, but there for emergencies anyway.
Designer (matching) purse ... let me add that I had this design on my vision board from the season the Paul's Boutique range came out. Dream do come true!!! Okay, working your butt off and staring at your vision board ever day also totally works!

Where were we...

My client worlds colliding with my Joburg Theatre entrance tag on my Peugeot lanyard.
At this point, I'm digging out my sparkly gold makeup purse ... which is empty, because all the contents are, yep, at the bottom of the bag.
Gold (fake) compact mirror ... now tossed into makeup purse
Drivers licence ... which does have a special place in my purse, on a good day.
Woolworths gift card ... oooh, I have no idea if it's empty or not!!!
Name tag from the HP printer #Inkology event I went to. (Not going back in the bag!)
One pen from The Maslow Hotel ... trust me, not the only pen in there!
Lipstick ... The coral shade! Also, totally not the only one at the bottom of the bag.
ID book ... which also has a specific space on a good day.
Oh look ... sparking wine cork!! I can explain ... you see, well, um *grins*
USB in a little media box ... Yes, I get them at every event ... Yes, they are all at the bottom of my bag
Black eyeliner ... back in the purse
Travel shampoo & conditioner ... what? My sister's a hairdresser. She gives me this stuff (randomly)
Lipstick No 2 ... Another shade of coral
Chewing gum wrapper
Elizabeth Arden 8 hour cream ... it's winter ... this is how I survive it!
Yoghurt lid ... okay, that's the first gross thing I've had! At least I licked it before tossing it in there 🙂
USB No 2
Joburg Theatre parking card ... which should so be in my car!
Pen No 2 ... No name brand!
House keys!
Oooh, another R10 ... back where it belongs
Lipstick No 3 ... nectarine (which is close to coral)
Yum, chocolate ... wait, how long has it been in here again? Oh please ... you would eat it too!
Spare house remote ... um, that should be in a safe place, right?
USB output point ... you know, the part that plugs into the lighter (only needed in my loyal, old car ... which is still at the panel beaters after the accident, by the way!)
Lip liner ... nutmeg (to go with the coral)
Business cards ... between 4 & 6, which will be added into the outlook address book, eventually! In the meantime ... shoved in purse!
Lip therapy ... cheaper version of eight hour cream!
Rescue remedy pills in little pill case ... *pops two* because life needs a little rescuing.
Lipstick No 4 ... Too old for sticker with name of it, but it looks kinda like coral
Pen ... yep, another one!
Oh look at that, another cork from a bottle of bubbles ... just because!
Pen ... from another event!
Endearmint ... for emergencies! *resists eating it until emergency*
USB ... but this time, it's on a key chain
Hand cream ... because, winter!
Eye liner No 1 ... needs sharpening
Eye liner No 2 ... hmmm, needs sharpening
Oooh, chocolate ... okay if there were two then I think they must have been for my twin nephews. Oh well, now there's only one! *opens wrapper*

I kid you not ... the last 4 items are ...
Lipstick ... Close to coral
Eye liner ... sharpened
USB stick
PEN!!!

Who can shamelessly beat that?