You can't fix your uncertainty, improve your self-esteem or bring about change in your life if you don't understand the workings of the mind.
By the time people approach us for coaching or guidance they have usually tried different forms of self-help tools. Many have failed in creating the dreams they desired, the weight they wanted to lose, the relationship they wished to create and all the other promises that the manifestation industry makes sound so simple. Although it takes many different forms, everyone hits the same stumbling block.
If you cannot manage your mind, it is impossible to shift the energy needed to create the life that seems so easy to manifest.
In the simplest explanation, the mind is divided into 3 sections:
The conscious, rational mind which is the representation of your soul
The unconscious, irrational mind which is the ego
The subconscious, which we imagine as a pool of limitless opportunity and possibility
Both the conscious and unconscious parts of the mind look into the pool of the subconscious. All parts of the mind are linked to who we are innately meant to be, which is centred around the traits we are born with.
In our formative years, we are highly sensitive and aware of the traits we were born with, which are linked to our time of birth. As these traits are tested in the world, the mind processes the responses to our words and actions. If there was a positive response, we continue to use that trait well and the way the soul intended it to be. Therefore, it becomes a trait used in the conscious, rational mind.
If a trait is used and the response from others triggers anxiety, fear, uncertainty, or anything that the mind perceives as negative, then it is compartmentalised into the irrational, ego mind.
The ego is purely a recording of every time a trait was used, and the response was negative. Then, in the middle, the subconscious mind remains neutral to all the traits and both the rational and irrational mind have the opportunity to see the limitless potential of consciously using our traits.
The rational, soul part of the mind is eager for our behaviour to drive us to the future which is potentially filled with happiness and the things we dream of.
The ego, on the other hand, only sees more hurt or damage that could possibly be done, irrelevant of how positive we may feel about our plans for ourselves.
Now that we understand the mind, we know that nothing changes if we don't have the capacity to keep our mind in the conscious, rational, present moment.
When we are in the soul, using our traits with courage and confidence, then we are in the faith. When we are in ego, mistrusting our traits and the world around us then we are in fear. We cannot be in fear and faith at the same time.
The steps of F.A.I.T.H is an acronym for Focus, Acceptance, Intention, Trust and Happiness. Unlike other steps, these are not linear and through our coaching, we guide our clients to use the one that is needed at any moment when the mind is in fear.
We believe so strongly in this tool that no client goes through any coaching without being guided on how to work with these steps.
There is a fundamental knowing that nothing changes if you do not come from a space of faith.
Through our work with individuals, we are also aware that change only comes when the mind can stay in the present moment.
“I stand up taller and prouder, not only physically but mentally. I don’t bite my tongue or try to people please anymore. I live in FAITH, not FEAR and I live in the now and trust more in the future.” Lifeology client
A reminder that this is not a linear process, we begin with the F of F.A.I.T.H:
We have been forced to drag our minds into the present moment, for fear that any distraction will take us away from what we want to manifest. However, if our body feels anxiety and we cannot bring it to a place of calm then it is irrelevant what we are focusing on.
Focus is not about dragging our attention to something where our energy does not align. It is the personal process of bringing the body and mind to a space of calm, where it can be in the present moment and energetically settle.
Focus is about stopping and being. It is irrelevant how much needs to be done. If you cannot centre your energy, no matter how you think you are paying attention to something, your energy and the intricate workings of the mind will not be present.
Taking the time to enjoy discovering what focus means to you should be navigated by a feeling of lightness and calm that comes with the simple pleasures of being in the present moment. If you are highly anxious, then focusing for the smallest amount of time is a great place to start. When the mind is truly in the present moment you will get a sense of what it means to be without fear.
Getting to a place of acceptance as quickly as possible takes away from the temptation of asking the question, “what if?” or distracting ourselves by the “could have or should have”. The ego holds on to expectations and wants life to unfold in a certain way because it feels safer there. However, this is where the deep disappointment lies. If we cannot wait for life to unfold, for a person to act, or for a situation to develop, we will struggle to accept when the outcome is different from what the mind created.
Being able to embrace the moment, no matter how different it is from what we wished or desired, gives us the ability to say, “it is what it is and where to from here?”
We are very aware that our coaching pushes the boundaries of bravery because no matter what a client says we will always return to the same statement, “that is all good and well, but it is what it is and what is the choice that you can make from here?”
We are not known for allowing anyone to give the mind the power of dwelling on the “if’s, but’s, could have’s or should have’s” because the longer anyone remains there the more time is wasted in the space of powerful manifestation.
The intention of faith is a process that we thoroughly enjoy taking our clients through. We also highly encourage individuals to use this technique as often as possible. When we talk of intention, we are encouraging the understanding of why we do what we do, and pose this as a question as often as possible.
‘Why?’ requires the response of the present rational mind because there is rationality in the question, why? The irrational ego mind does not understand why it does what it does. Asking why will bring an immediate pause to the irrational ego mind and pulls us energetically into the present moment, allowing the rational mind to see into the irrationality, which shows what the irrational mind has been thinking. The more we brave asking why the deeper we can explore what the ego has done with the trait that would have started as neutral when you were born. Empowering ourselves to do something different can only be embraced when we understand why the ego has not allowed a different choice or action until then.
When talking about faith it is very often that a client will say to us, I trust the universe and I trust life around me. They may also say that they are trusting of other people or situations who they know, love and care for. The greatest amount of mistrust that we see is trust in one’s own choices and intuition. To truly align with faith, we must trust our universe, our choices and our intuitive selves. Trust is a muscle that needs to be strengthened. The more you work at it the stronger it will become because it is directly linked to our ability to lean into our intuition. When we are in absolute trust we will be anchored in the present moment and know that we sense the energy around us, fuel the choices and decisions that need to be made, bypass any irrational thoughts, and have faith that life will unfold exactly as it should.
The final step of faith is that of happiness. It works both ways in that, when we are truly happy, we are in faith and also when we are in faith we are truly happy.
Happiness is not something that can be measured by anybody's benchmark but by our own. What makes one happy could be very different to the expectation of what happiness should be. Because we are always being navigated to our fulfilment and joy, it is irrelevant what the mind is thinking, and we are always being directed energetically to what our deep subconscious knows will make us happy.
Being in faith is the ability to surrender to watch what the ego mind thinks happiness should look like. Ultimately, we should flow with life, simply sensing where each moment makes us happy.
The catch with happiness is to know that life will not always be pleasant, but through the choppy waters, the undercurrent of happiness is still there. A vital part of the conscious awareness needed to live in faith is that we are being consistently navigated towards the fulfilling life we are worthy of, with happiness as the constant navigator and not the destination.
Feel free to book a transformation coaching session with either Jodene or Greg to personalise the Steps of F.A.I.T.H, however in all of our coaching we weave this in. If you are unsure of a good starting point in our potential journey of transformation together, book a 30-minute complimentary exploratory session for us to chat.