Every Little Step is a Big Step
While working with my mentee yesterday and coaching her into braver steps each week, we had a moment where her waiting for my response to a question felt as though it needed a drumroll. After months, in her own good time, she took a brave step. It was one I was holding out for her to take but had not expressed my waiting. When she told me, I let out a sigh of relief and a grand gesture of pride, that she had felt her way through life and realised for herself that she needed to do this.
"Why didn't you tell me to do it before, if you knew it would have a positive outcome?" was the big question.
"I wouldn't be a very good mentor if I told you the steps I would take or the ones I thought you should take," was my sincere reply.
It got the drumroll reaction we both needed. She totally got it and settled into her gratitude for being supported, while still figuring out each step in her own journey.
In The Foundation to Doing Something Different, which is the core Lifeology tool we use in our coaching and course, we encourage you to, 'make it about you'. That means no matter where you turn for support or guidance, you only truly take the brave step when it settles deep within you, as your truth.
How do you know what step to take when you are filled with fear or uncertainty?
Turn to your trusted circle! Ask the guide, coach, or guru. Seek guidance from your guides and look for signs from the universe. Let them be your sounding board, but until you can make it about you and brave the littlest step, you are not walking in your truth - and a path paved from your own brave and truthful little steps lead you to the big picture of your fulfilled and joyful life.
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Vegan Foodie Review: The Fussy Vegan
Vegans love food! Trust me, I'm happily obsessed with eating and love being a vegan foodie. Especially because of the sad reputation that vegans only eat avocado on toast or lettuce. AND where do we get our protein from. That's for another blog. Today, I'm thrilled to be doing my first vegan foodie blog of one of my fave spot in Johannesburg - The Fussy Vegan!
Kimchi burger with a side of mac and cheese
Word on the street spread quickly about the small "grab and go" vegan restaurant. My first question about restaurants in Joburg is, are they really vegan or do they have one option and call themselves vegan friendly? Also, why are they vegan? This seems like a silly question, but people choose veganism for different reason and there are also different kinds of vegans. Some people, including me, don't like to call themselves vegan, mainly because it can be an equally unhealthy lifestyle as a meat eater, with a bit less damage to the planet, but as much damage to our bodies. When I talk vegan, I'm wanting two things. Plant based lifestyle and an overall awareness that the planet needs our attention. That's why I chose this lifestyle. I had one to many people deal with cancer, I have weight issues and I'm a total tree hugger. Those three reasons are the calling for a plant based lifestyle. Don't get me wrong, there is something that has settled my soul in not eating animals, but it wasn't the reason I chose the lifestyle.
The Fussy Vegan ticks all the ethics, lifestyle and taste tantalising boxes for me. I could hardly believe it was a tiny shop on Jan Smuts Avenue and everyone who knows it calls it the spot at the vegan Caltex garage.
For the busy vegan, The Fussy Vegan food on the run
I'm always amazed at the flow of people who walk in, grab a sandwich and go. It might seem like the norm, but it's impossible for a healthy or plant based vegan to stroll into a supermarket or convenience store and find anything healthy or nutritious to eat. It's no one's fault and yes, we do make thee life choice. That's why I'm very happy to plan my day and drive the 18 minute it takes to get to The Fussy Vegan, knowing my day will be on the run and my food needs to be the same. From the pulled mushroom to the tofu mayo and BLT, the tastes and textures of the sandwiches are amazing. Can we talk about the bread for a moment. You can taste the healthiness and you know there's nothing but goodness in it.
Although the shop is small, there are a few cosy seats inside and a lovely outside area. The sit down (or take it away) menu has the most amazing variety and my trick is to take either a friend or family member to double up and taste as many things as possible with. I'm not one to crave the taste of anything meaty, but I also didn't give it up because I couldn't stand the taste. That being said, if it's going to be a steak and cheese sandwich or a hearty burger, then it must smack of something meaty and WOW, do they get that so right. The menu includes a great mac 'n cheese, as well as outstanding burritos.
Let's talk price, because there's a misconception that the vegan lifestyle is so expensive. This is where you can divide the restaurant owners and vegan food suppliers into those who are passionate about it and those who think we will pay any price for a meal. We won't! Well, I certainly won't. This place is really well priced, with a sandwich at around R30 and a hugely delicious burger for around R75.
Being plant based, but still loving that piece of cake or breakfast croissant makes this spot heavenly. I'm also conscious of my sugar intake and really try be as clean eating as possible. Their cake and dessert options have those options and it's great. The thing about going greens and beans is the delusion that you'll never have another piece of cake again, and if you do it will taste like cardboard with a blob of coconut cream. Do yourself a favour and take a non vegan friend with you, because between the black forest cake, 'milk'tart, croissants and cupcakes you'll be happily and pleasantly surprise.
To put the cherry on the vegan cake, The Fussy Vegan is planet conscious and nature loving on every level, from the biodegradable take-away containers to the products sold and of course ... there are NO harmful straws to be seen, so they definitely don't suck!
Pop in a few times and you're a regular. The team are amazingly friendly and from the heart you can feel their passion for being vegan and serving their ever growing community.
Join their Facebook page to stay updated on the latest special and what's new in the shop: The Fussy Vegan
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Warm Broccoli, Walnut and Quinoa Salad
I'm very excited to add a vegan and plant based recipe spin into #ProjectMe, because experimenting with food has been the one thing that has made the process lasting for me. There is a perception that vegans only eat avocado on toast or flavourless tofu, but I have had more burst of flavour and exciting meals with plant based ingredients than ever before.A dear friend spotted my warm broccoli, spinach and walnut salad and asked for the recipe, so Di ... this one's for you:
1 broccoli head
1 bag of baby spinach leaves
1 bunch of long green beans
1 cup of chopped walnuts
1 cup of shaved coconut
1 cup uncooked quinoa
1/2 cup pomegranate seeds (seasonal)
1 avo (optional)
1 fresh lemon
Mixed or All Spice
Roast the uncooked quinoa on a baking tray on medium heat, until they go golden brown. It changes the taste of the quinoa completely. Add two cups water to one cup roasted quinoa and cook on medium heat for about 15 - 20 mins. Quinoa must be soft (not crunch) and set aside to cool.
Break the broccoli into small chunks, chop beans into three and steam for 10 to 15 minutes. The veggies must still be crunch, so don't overdo it.
In a pan on medium heat, add the walnuts & coconut shavings. Stir continuously so they go golden brown but do not burn. This also changes the taste completely.
While the veggies and quinoa are still warm, toss them into your serving bowl, with the uncooked spinach leaves. This tenderises the leaves slightly.
Mix in the nuts, coconut and pomegranate.
I am a plant based vegan, so processed oils aren't in my recipes. You can add a dash of olive oil, but fresh avocado is a much better way to get your healthy fats into your recipes.
Spicing the salad is up to you. It goes very well with All Spice or Mixed Spice, which has some cinnamon in it. I add some salt and squeeze one fresh lemon. As a side note, I have readjusted my tastebuds so I hardly use any spices in my food at all. If you want to add a dressing ... go for it and do let me know how it is
Rekindling Project Me Vegan Style
I can't believe that I haven't blogged for a year, but I also totally understand why. I want to talk change for one moment and explain how I have figure out I do it. I come from a place of uncertainty first and instead of embracing what I believe will be good for me, I fear it for a long time first. There has been a lot going on in the past year, mainly because I have decide to embrace a lot of change. In reality, I have kicked of Project Me all over again and didn't really realise it until now.
Why am I blogging again?
Because I've fallen in love with my lifestyle and the fears of not getting it right or being judged for my choices have finally, completely subsided. Project me has always been about making myself my own personal project and although it's been a constant ebb and flow of getting on and falling off the horse, the one thing that has settled is my lifestyle into plant based veganism. I will do a whole blog post on the difference between being plant based and being a vegan, because there is a big one.
I learned that the hard way, when I first had the realisation that my body really didn't like animal products anymore, which I will tell you about in a moment, but let's finish about me getting it wrong. When I went vegan, I didn't use any guidelines and was still afraid of starches and having too many calories. The jury is still out, but I got serious bouts of vertigo and tinnitus (which I still have after a year) and when I went for blood tests, my vitamin B12 and D was very low. Another blog will be about no only vegans having these deficiencies, but I went back to eating eggs and dairy for a while, before overcoming my fear of not eating correctly.
Why am I vegan?
That's an easy one. I love animals and feel so much better about not doing them any harm. I also know I'm doing my bit for the planet, which you can do loads of research. However, mine is for me. It's for my health. It's for a decision I made when I went through the chemo process with a friend of mine and when I watched my sister's best friend go through the same process. Something triggered in me and I was determined to take better care of myself. It wasn't an overnight process, because who wants to give up crispy friend bacon and a cheesy, stringy pizza. Amazingly, my body heard my desires and slowly over the months, I literally could not stomach most meat. Then, one night, when at an amazing restaurant in Joburg, I got served my piece of chicken. It was huge. Far too big. What happened to our food? That was it. I woke up the next day and I was vegan.
I have done tons of research and settled into finding the majority of my guidance from Dr Michael Greger. He has an incredible book called, How Not to Die and has an App called, The Daily Dozen. Everything I am going to share with you will be from him or sources I have learned to trust, but I am not here to show you how to be vegan. I'm not even here to promote the lifestyle. I'm simple back on my next phase of Project Me. The one where I love to share my daily experiences, which have now become about testing new recipes, finding vegan friendly restaurants ... and of course, way beyond my tummy, I am moving how, writing another book, expanding my business. I'm doing Project Me!
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The Footprint of Resistance
It started as a potentially peaceful Sunday, even thought I knew I had to deal with a few work things. Being the passionate business woman I am, I don't mind weekend interactions, but I do mind when it tramples over my energetic space because people do not know what their footprints of resistance do.
Amazingly, I have worked hard to ensure their resistance doesn't impact my day, but it turned out to be a sad process for me to watch someone meet the potential of growth and change with such resistance. It's very common in the field I am in, managing from the sidelines but still taking on a role of moulding and guiding people in the direction of a more rounding and aware online person. As my instruction was being fought against and the energy of the engagement completely shifted, I wished I had the right to swap hats and turn into the Life Achievement Facilitator I am.
Do you take note of your own resistance? It was so clear in that moment, how we resist so much of what life sends our way, know it will be good for us. We don't want it though. We don't want to learn or to grow. We want what we want and we want it our way. We don't want to be guided to a life changing process on a Sunday. We don't want in on Monday or a Tuesday either. It was easy to spot it in the work situation, but I'm sure if I had the opportunity to dig a little deeper, it would be evident in so many areas of life.
Resistance is the opposite of ease. It's working against the flow of life. It's struggling upstream when we are meant to be moving with the flow of the river of life. Resistance is the frustration we feel when life pushes us to grow, to realise, to awaken. Resistance is the most unconscious energy we could possibly slip into when we have the greatest opportunity to delve deeper into our potential by simply surrendering to the lesson and to the wiser teacher.
Today, tomorrow and each day after, I choose to open to the teacher called life. I choose to grow, to flow in ease and to be grateful for the lessons and guidance. Choose wisely!
This is as new for me as it may be for you. It's only been a few days since I was drawn to begin my co-creation journal. I've journaled for years and after I completed writing The Holistic Entrepreneur, something shifted. I didn't want to do what I had been doing for so long. It got me stuck and it got me feeling unsettled. I had been doing to for so long and something inside me shifted.
In The Holistic Entrepreneur I talk about being grateful in the moment, not so much as constantly journalling about it. The combination of both worked for me for so long and then something shifted again. I know I will never stop feeling grateful in the moment and I will always sneak off to bathrooms and high five myself of hug myself so tight and say, "well done you!".
Of late, my focus has changed and I have been drawn, mostly by undeniable signs to discover the power of co-creation. It is a tricky thing to get our heads around the reality that we are the universe. We are all of the universe and we manifest from our energetic centers of the heart and our deepest feelings. That is why thoughts don't become things. The way we feel about thoughts is what turns into things. It's also the we try and create for nothing and expect miracles to happen. The more I've been trying to connect to my own understanding of co-creation, the more I've been drawn to keep a co-creation journal.
The trick is that there can't be plotting and scheming in it. The universe just doesn't work that way. This is what I've been doing ... I carry a small journal around with me and only once the co-creation has happened and I piece it all together do I get all excited about it and journal it. A great example is my dear friend Jenn and I planned to have a night out where we got dressed and had some fun. We picked this weekend but it never happened that we managed to plan anything. Life got in the way. Then yesterday I went to an all women's event (Women's month celebrations) and there were only four or five men in the room of over a hundred women. There stood a friend of my bestie, who now lives overseas. He was so excited to see me and invited to and whoever I wanted to bring to his birthday party tonight. Co-creation in full swing ... us two ladies had a reason to get dressed up, as energetically desired.
Another great examples is my team and myself each work a weekend on social media community management and then they take off the Monday. That day makes me stressed because our clients usually jump into action on a Monday and want things done, which I can do, but I would much prefer to do with my team. I felt it this week and had a silent moment of not wanting the stress anymore, so I decided to work on shifting my energy and basically getting over myself and my issues. Today, in our staff meeting, my team asked if they have to take a Monday off?? I halted the meeting ... I whipped out my co-creation journal and I told them that, of course not, they did not have to! Thank you me ... thank you universe.
I'm still playing around with the co-creation of all things and I do believe it's the tiny things which will make us realize we can create the bigger ones. The problem is we start with the manifestation of the total overhaul of life. Baby steps ... very conscious baby step.
Try it with me ...
To watch my Project Me Vlog on the co creation journal: Project Me Vlog Day 230
Adulting and the Inner Child
We have become so accustom to playing with the word, adulting, that it should be in the dictionary. I've checked ... it's not .. yet! Today I had a typical adulting vs the inner child kind of day and I didn't realize it while it was playing out.
Thanks to a chat with a good friend, I had such a profound realization, which helped turn a seemingly dismal day into a great one. My passion for life stems for the joy of being a business woman and I love what I do. Besides wishing I had more time to write, my career is right on track. I am grateful to have the passion and natural ability to steer my social media business in the right direction. The business owner in me knows that there are good and bad days. The business woman in me knows that there are emails, phone calls, conversations which no one wants to have, but which is part of business. The adult in me knows I can handle them, but my inner child does not want to. No one's inner child wants to. Like gravity though, we have that little person inside of us, whether we acknowledge it or not.
It helps to acknowledge it though, because there is inner strength in consciously growing. I know, the inner child doesn't like that growing stuff either, but as I was reminded today, no one likes the uncomfortable situations, but that is where the growth happens. If you told me I could remain the small business person I was or sometimes still feel, or I could face the challenges and allow my inner child to toughen up and be bold and brave ... I would choose bravery every time.
The real gem in this is how you nurture that inner child when it doesn't want to adult. A friend of mine once gave me big girl panties. They were huge and they were ugly, but I pulled them out of my drawer often. It was fun to take a look at them and then try do something brave and I think my inner child truly like that. There is a part of us who wants to know that it's okay to do the adult thing, but we have to acknowledge that part and we don't do that nearly enough.
It's time for that to change. It's time to be gentler with ourselves and to be kind to the fears because they aren't coming from the grown up. They are coming from the little you. How do you handle a scared little human around you? Ask yourself that and try be a gentler on yourself. I do believe there is amazing growth and higher highs to reach when we do.
For the vlog linked to this post, watch: Project Me Vlog Day 225
Sugar Free Peach Crumble Recipe
The moment I tell people I quit sugar nearly two years ago, they gasp at the thought of living sugar free. Yet, when I whip up a pudding or dessert, there is an equal gasp at how yummy it is. In this quick and easy peach crumble recipe, there are alternatives for different levels of sweetness. I also use gluten free oats, because gluten and sugar are very much linked. I will leave that to the experts to explain, so check out Sarah Wilson's blog post on Why I quit gluten when I quit Sugar.
4 semi ripe peaches
1 tbsp rice syrup/honey/pure maple syrup
1 tbsp mixed spice or cinnamon
1 cup gluten free oats
1 tbsp coconut oil
1 tbsp rice syrup/honey/maple syrup
1 tbsp chai seeds
Cut the peaches off the pip into eight pieces per peach. In a small shallow baking pan, place the peaches around in a circle until the pan is full.
Drizzle your choice of sweeter. For sugar free, rice syrup is the only option. It is less sweet, so if you are not so fussy go for the honey or maple syrup, which adds sweetness.
Sprinkle the mixed spice or cinnamon and bake in a pre heated over on 180 deg c. for 20 mins.
Just before the time ends, melt the coconut oil on low heat in a pan. Add the sweetner of choice and let it get hot. Throw in the oats and stir continuously until they go golden brown. Don't take your eye off it because once it's ready, it go brown quickly.
Remove the pan from the oven and evenly spread the oats, then sprinkle the chai seeds and return to the oven for an additional 20 minutes.
Serve hot and if you are eating dairy, pour on some cream. For the vegan/diary free alternative, use coconut milk.
The Entertainer App in My Jozi
I have had an interesting week, where someone questioned my fulfillment of lifestyle, living in the big city of My Jozi. Johannesburg is a bustling metropolitan city, which doesn't have a sea view or the mountain either. It does have so much to do thought and The Entertainer App helped me realise that.
Quality of life was the topic and had me a little thrown, when I thought about all the things other people were doing, living by the sea, or in other cities around the world. The problem is, I'm a heart and soul Joburg girl. It took me a little while to settle into knowing that and now that I feel so rooted and grounded in the city I call home, I want to explore it more. That's an odd thing to say for a 40something year old woman who has lived here my whole life, but discovering The Entertainer sparked a new desire to adventure through Johannesburg.
The Entertainer App used to be a booklet and has totally moved with the times, into a slick and full app, loaded with two for one deals in Joburg and beyond. It's a party starter, with three coupons per outing and you can use all three at the same time, with six people happily splitting the bill for three.
With the great love I have for food and my constant run at being nominated best aunty by my twin nephews, I'm thrilled to have the opportunity to use up as many coupons before this year is through.
As August is nearly upon us, The Entertainer has a great special of R295 for the remainder of the year. We all know that we're trying to find ways to stay within budget but still have fun ... and this is best way how that I've seen in a very long time.
If you join, let me know ... let's lunch or go bouncing ?
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The Joy of Losing Count in our Happiness
I haven't written for the longest time. Well, that's half true because I've created a book and whole lot more since I last wrote a blog post, which is a very different kind of writing. When I started Project Me, it was at blog post number 1 and my plan was to pick up where I left off, at over a thousand numbered posts. However, I've just had to embrace the joy of losing count, in our happiness, because happiness has no limits.
I meditate a lot and in my quiet time today, the rambling question was, are you succeeding because you are happy or are you happy because you are succeeding. In the ideal world of feeling like an enlighten human being, of course I want to say that I'm succeeding because I am happy. The truth is, one of the reasons I fell so quiet in my writing is that success hasn't been flowing as easily as I thought it would.
My book, The Holistic Entrepreneur, didn't fly into the hands of the hundreds I imagined would crave reading it and I have had a drop - not even a drizzle, but one drop - of speaker opportunities that have stemmed from it. If I were truly happy first and succeeding after, there should be more flow. The problem is, we are humans and we are loaded with emotions, which we are left to figure out as we aimlessly wonder through life.
Because we struggle to master our emotions, we turn to the easier road of mastering our heads. Oh that's an easy one, because we plot and we plan and we can keep count. Counting was vital to me when I started this writing process. Funny enough, with my vlogs, I'm still counting. I'm counting because I believe and so do the majority of us, that reaching a set goal or target is going to make us happy.
My honest truth is that I believe it doesn't matter how many books of self we read or how much we meditate, visualise and say we are conscious, it will always be a daily toil to truly succeed because we are happy first. We will always count and will always be tempted to count, and I'm allowing myself to let that be okay. It's more troublesome to the soul to try fight through all the external jargon and "spiritual" solutions we think we have found ourselves, so eventually it falls quiet and we think we are doing a fabulous job at life.
Maybe, if it's messy and we've lost count, wondering through life, from one unexpected moment to the next ... maybe that's the secret to happiness and all the rest will follow.